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Oof, this is a toughie. Not to evade the question entirely, but I’ve found that in most cases there’s not such a clear, straightforward, answer to this question. Other than simply saying that it’s fear and leaving it at that. This is the sort of thing that involves digging into some more details about what this actually looks like for you, whether it’s procrastination, unhelpful choices, habits, etc. And what the fears center around, whether it’s fear of failure, success, and so on.
I like the Susan Jeffers book “Feel the fear and do it anyway,” as well as the Steven Pressfield book “The war of art”, as well as David Schwartz’s “The magic of thinking big” – all of which are based around simply taking action, rather than letting the “little ‘ol me-itis” from setting in and leading us to be indecisive and err on the side of inaction.
Not a step-by-step answer, I know, but I hope this helps you take a step forward in the direction you’re wanting to go (lack of clarity about which is sometimes part of the problem as well).